Reconciliate With Loneliness

We have to learn to come to terms with loneliness and not find it depressing

Loneliness has a reputation for being bad because people are said to be made for togetherness.

However, many forget that temporary loneliness can also be wholesome and has positive effects on the psyche.  But only if you accept it and learn to deal with it.

Fear of loneliness

The word “loneliness” alone scares many people. It is true that long-term loneliness can even be torturous.

Nonetheless, we should deal with this state in such a way that we do not have a feeling of fear but of wholeness.

Although loneliness implies that no one else is present, that is, someone is “missing”, it can nevertheless lead to an intense experience of oneself as a whole and to emerge stronger from it.

Fear of loneliness is largely instilled.

Not every culture perceives loneliness as equally stressful. In some cultures it is also used to intensify the maturation process of a person or to achieve spiritual clarity.

But in our culture, loneliness always means something negative. Free yourself from this thought!

You are never really alone

People who perceive being alone as a problem often overlook the fact that in reality they are never alone. If you are alone, someone is always with you: you!

Learn to “start something” with yourself, to come to terms with yourself, to spend your time with yourself, to get to know and grow, to develop your personality.

Of course there are also situations in which loneliness hurts: the end of a relationship, a death, spatial separation … It is important to understand that these negative associations only come from yourself.

Because even if you are left, a person may be missing, but you are still there! And you never leave yourself alone …

Learn to be alone with your loneliness

Some of us feel lonely when our partner comes home late in the evening and the evening is alone at home.

The empty walls look threatening, emptiness fills the room, a feeling of loneliness grips you. What if an evening turned into a day, a week, a month?

In order not to fall into a depressive mood, it is up to you to learn to deal with loneliness on your own.

• Listen to your inner voice: does it claim that being alone is a negative thing? If so, then that’s how you feel when you’re alone. Therefore change your view of things! Say what you want to feel: “Loneliness can be beautiful. You don’t burden me … “
• Spend time with yourself! Do things alone that you think you could only do with others: go out for a cup of coffee with yourself, spend a nice weekend with yourself somewhere abroad, be out with yourself and learn enough for yourself To be companion!
• Question your thought patterns. Are you really lonely or actually only among people you have no contact with? Do you actually know the neighbor across the street? Who are all the people who surround you every day? You are not lonely, you are only in your perception, because in reality you are in the middle of people! It’s up to you to open up to them and end your loneliness. Be active instead of passively indulging in lonely feelings!

Accept loneliness

When you realize that you hold the key to when you want to be lonely and when not, the lonely feeling will soon turn into something positive for you.

Loneliness as a way to give yourself the time. Time to do things that you just want to do alone – or that you don’t need anyone to do to be happy alone.

For you, loneliness should only be the state of what you can see: no one there but you. But you yourself have it in your power to fill solitude with many things that take you further, give you joy, fulfill yourself in order to recognize.

Being lonely does not necessarily mean negative emptiness …